The mention of my child’s name May bring tears to my eyes, But never fails to bring music to my ears. If you are really my friend, Let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul - Author unknown ON DEATH - Kahlil Gibran You   would   know   the   secret   of   death.   But   how   shall   you   find   it unless   you   seek   it   in   your   heart   of   life?   The   owl   whose   night- bound   eyes   are   blind   unto   the   day   cannot   unveil   the   mystery   of light.   If   you   would   indeed   behold   the   spirit   of   death,   open   your heart   wide   unto   the   body   of   life.   For   life   and   death   are   one, even as the river and the sea are one. In    the    depth    of    your    hopes    and    desires    lies    your    silent knowledge   of   the   beyond;   And   like   seeds   dreaming   beneath the   snow   your   heart   dreams   of   spring.   Trust   the   dreams,   for   in them   is   hidden   the   gate   to   eternity. Your   fear   of   death   is   but   the trembling   of   the   shepherd   when   he   stands   before   the   king whose   hand   is   to   be   laid   upon   him   in   honour.   Is   the   shepherd not   joyful   beneath   his   trembling,   that   he   shall   wear   the   mark   of the king? Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling? For   what   is   it   to   die   but   to   stand   naked   in   the   wind   and   to   melt into   the   sun?   And   what   is   it   to   cease   breathing,   but   to   free   the breath   from   its   restless   tides,   that   it   may   rise   and   expand   and seek   God   unencumbered?   Only   when   you   drink   from   the   river of   silence   shall   you   indeed   sing.     And   when   you   have   reached the   mountain   top,   then   you   shall   begin   to   climb.   And   when   the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance. Quotes: The fear of death follows the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time. ~ Mark Twain Some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live. ~ Henry Van Dyke To   fear   death   is   nothing   other   than   to   think   oneself   wise   when one   is   not.   For   it   is   to   think   one   knows   what   one   does   not   know. No   one   knows   whether   death   may   not   even   turn   out   to   be   the greatest blessings of human beings. And yet people fear it as if they knew for certain it is the greatest evil. ~ Socrates Of   course   you   don't   die.   Nobody   dies.   Death   doesn't   exist.   You only   reach   a   new   level   of   vision,   a   new   realm   of   consciousness, a new unknown world. ~ Henry Miller
Vince Leitao - Author and Experiential Grief Student
What to say to someone who has lost a loved one It   is   common   to   feel   awkward   when   trying   to   comfort someone   who   is   grieving.   Many   people   do   not   know what   to   say   or   do.   The   following   are   suggestions   to use as a guide. Acknowledge   the   situation.    Example:   "I   heard   that your_____   died."   Use   the   word   "died"   That   will   show that   you   are   more   open   to   talk   about   how   the   person really feels. Express   your   concern.    Example:   "I'm   sorry   to   hear that this happened to you." Be    genuine     in    your    communication    and    don't    hide your   feelings.   Example:   "I’m   not   sure   what   to   say,   but   I want you to know I care." Offer   support.    Example:   "Tell   me   what   I   can   do   for you." Ask    how    he    or    she    feels,     and    don't    assume    you know   how   the   bereaved   person   feels   on   any   given day. Source: American Cancer Society
What to avoid saying to someone who has lost a loved one I   know   how   you   feel.    One   can   never   know   how   another may   feel.   You   could,   instead,   ask   your   friend   to   tell   you how he or she feels. It's   part   of   God's   plan.    This   phrase   can   make   people angry   and   they   often   respond   with,   ‘What   plan?   Nobody told me about any plan.’ Look   at   what   you   have   to   be   thankful   for.    They   know they   have   things   to   be   thankful   for,   but   right   now   these   are not important. He's   in   a   better   place   now.    The   bereaved   may   or   may not    believe    this.    Keep    your    beliefs    to    yourself    unless asked. This   is   behind   you   now;   it's   time   to   get   on   with   your life.    Sometimes   the   bereaved   are   resistant   to   getting   on with   because   they   feel   this   means   forgetting   his   or   her loved    one.    In    addition,    moving    on    is    easier    said    than done.   Grief   has   a   mind   of   its   own   and   works   at   its   own pace. Statements   that   begin   with   ‘You   should’    or   ‘You   will.’   These    statements    are    too    directive.    Instead    you    could begin   your   comments   with:   Have   you   thought   about...’ or ‘You might...’ Source: American Hospice Foundation
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